How to feel safe when bad things happen

Four ways to find security and comfort in the face of terrible tragedy.     After devastating national or international tragedies, we all find ourselves living in a world that is materially the same but psychologically altered. There are still the same necessary routines: making breakfast, getting kids to school, riding the train to work, and taking care of household […]

Stop Googling. Let’s Talk.

COLLEGE students tell me they know how to look someone in the eye and type on their phones at the same time, their split attention undetected. They say it’s a skill they mastered in middle school when they wanted to text in class without getting caught. Now they use it when they want to be […]

Stress Can Be a Good Thing If You Know How to Use It

With all the media and medical attention on stress and its negative health impacts, it is easy to reach the conclusion that stress is irredeemably bad—something to be avoided as much as possible. We have a different perspective. We believe that pursuing a “stress-free” life often causes more stress down the line—problems compound, and by […]

Slowing Down in an Age of Speed

When I was around 10 and living in Sri Lanka, a new Chinese ambassador was appointed to the country. I had the honor of meeting him on several occasions because his wife, who missed her own children back home, often invited us for family dinners. Seated at the large round dining table, I remember being […]

Reward + Nap = Improved Memory and Learning

A new study suggests that when the learning process is accompanied by positive reinforcement, and then followed by a nap, memory improves. Specifically, researchers from the University of Geneva discovered memories associated with a reward are preferentially reinforced by sleep. A short nap after a period of learning appears to augment the learning and memory […]

Catastrophic Thinking Presentation

Click the link below to download Dr Emily O’Leary’s presentation from “The Sky is Falling” Info Night on catastrophic thinking. Catastrophic Thinking Presentation  

Positive Aging: 8 Ways to Age Better and Healthier

Positive aging refers to maintaining a happy lifestyle, staying healthy, engaging fully in life and feeling good about ourselves throughout our lives as we age. Aging means experiencing significant changes, such as changes in physical functioning, relationships, employment, etc. Having and maintaining a positive feeling towards aging can help us feel good and have a […]

What Good Is Guilt?

When it’s useful, when it’s not, and how to truly let it go. As a working mom, I’ve managed my share of guilt. Whether it was feeling guilty when I missed a field trip because of an important meeting or when I missed a work event because of a pediatrician’s appointment, I’m well acquainted with […]

25 Questions For Kids that Boost Self Esteem

Children love to talk about themselves, especially with a parent who is willing to listen.  When our children notice that we care, that we are interested in their world and experiences, they feel a strong sense of belonging and significance. Belonging and significance are two core components of feeling well and doing well. Casey O’Roarty, […]

Anxiety: 10 New Psychology Studies You Should Know

1. Acts of kindness can help reduce social anxiety Performing acts of kindness can help people with social anxiety mingle with others more easily. People recruited into the study were put into one of three groups for four weeks: One group performed acts of kindness, like doing their roommates’ dishes. Another group were exposed to various […]